An a"alpha mom" is described as the mom who does it all, from kids to career, and has it all, from designer fashions to technology. Sound familiar? I am sure we can all think of that 40-something alpha mom that seems to have it made. As I was watching the segment, I found myself thinking, "I want to be an Alpha Mom!" Who wouldn't want to? It even comes with a cool sounding name!
As the segment continued, however, I had conflicting thoughts. Is this just more pressure heaped upon the ever-overwhelmed mom? I think we all know that we are talented beyond the walls of our home, but is it really necessary to ALWAYS be multi-tasking as the alpha mom shown? I mean who cooks cupcakes in stilettos & then acts like that is comfy & normal? Sometimes I just want to be doing a SINGLE task...even if that single task is nothing but sitting on the floor with Z. Who can resist this?
On the flip, do you alpha mom it upfront in the hopes that your money will be able to work for you & you'll have more time on the back end? I don't know, but it seems to me like this is all a bit "high school."Don't you remember those girls in high school that were "alpha" everything? Car at 16, cute boyfriend, athletic superstar, A+ academics on and on...it seemed like they were perfect...until you ran into them 5 years after high school only to see that they spiraled out of control. Now I am not saying that is the case with everyone, but I think you get my point. I would bet most of us can look back at high school and think, "I wish I would have just enjoyed that time a bit more." I feel the same way about being a mom.
As much as I sometimes miss my "old" life, I wouldn't want to change my current. So I guess the real question is...is it so bad to be content with a life that doesn't include cupcakes in stilettos?
In my opinion, I don't want Zack's cupcake memories to be filled with me on a blackberry, in stilettos & a laptop on the counter. Instead of being connected to everyone else via technology, I'd rather be connected to him via time spent & if that means giving up some designer handbags...I'm in. There is alpha in all of us, which is good...I just hope at the end of the day there is a bit more mom than alpha!
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Oh, I needed this today, thank you. The idea of an alpha mom is pretty interesting, and becoming so prevalent. I easily get wrapped up in the computer or the phone and need to create some tech-free memories with Cooper- thanks for the reminder. Although, I think you're pretty alpha, amy. I think it's possible to do it all, as long as the priorities are in place.
You're right Amblery! There is definitely some alpha going on here as I sit with 2 computers & a cell phone in front of me!...Sigh..
Awesome post Amy! And thinking back in high school, it seems like you had it all, and you still do!!! But moderation and our priorities is key. Nothing is of higher importance than the calling of motherhood, which I whole-heartedly believe, but I have to admit, I have to remind myself from time to time...
PS-GORGEOUS photo!!!
Amy,
Hey Matt ran into Scot yesterday in home depot and called him Jeff, he doesn't know what he was thinking. He wanted to tell him sorry :)Great posting by the way!
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